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Going To Pieces Without Falling Apart – Part 1

April 17, 2013

This is the title of a book on Buddhist Perspectives and Psychotherapy – It’s a fascinating read and I will go into further detail in Part 2. But for now – what do we need in order to go to pieces in a safe and nurturing way?

  1. Security
  2. Trust
  3. A Safe Environment
  4. Nourishment – Physical (Food), Emotional (Support) and Psychological (Experience/Insight)

I am currently in a safe place that provides all of the above in order for me to take those final steps towards my full recovery. Have a gander at my previous posts to give you a broader view of where I have been and where I am at right now.

In order for us to heal our whole-selves, we DO need certain factors to be in place. I knew this before – but now I can tell you directly from this place of presence – an experience that is happening right NOW. I hope it helps.

In the post on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs I told you that I had three layers of the pyramid missing and I demonstrated the devastating – but not fatal – effect that was having on me. I have now succeeded in preparing and putting in place physical aspects such as a safe affordable home (almost there!), friends who support rather than hinder (Ditto!) and facilitating a re-boot of my core beliefs and coping strategies – hence why I am here in this specialised psychosocial environment:



Doing this achieves what? Well, if you refer back to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, I have myself replaced the bottom two layers – arguably the most important as they provide the foundations for living:


I have only been in the facility for a day and so am not yet feeling that third layer but it’s early days – this will come. Once it has – and I have assured my body and mind of more stable structures and calmer thoughts – it is important to transfer this process and those feelings and experiences to the outside – just as we do if we have family and supportive friends who ‘get us’. They don’t follow us round do they? They don’t come to work with us, follow us into the bathroom (hope not!) BUT we still carry that sense of psychological well-being and psychosocial acceptance and health with us – IF we had those structures in place to begin with. If we didn’t, as I said in Sticking To Your Own Blueprint – we CAN still achieve this but it will be harder to achieve and may take a little longer.


And as I hope I have demonstrated here – we can find other, creative ways to find our own support system, create our own physiological foundation and build – from the ground up.

Stay on this channel – more news coming up… 🙂


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