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About Recovery…

January 31, 2014

There is something that we all need to know about recovery (and recovery can be from an addiction, a loss, a nervous breakdown, a delusion – anything).

The thing we need to know about recovery is this: the moment you recover some of your friends will try and knock you back down again.

This is a massive problem within our communities. A massive problem that we must look into. Right now.

There is a line in the second Bridget Jones’ movie, it goes something like this:

“Friends. They spend all their time trying to help you find a man, then when you get one they spend the rest of the time trying to get you to dump him. Bastards”.

Let’s just take this comedy situation seriously for a moment and ask why friends do this? (and when I say ‘friends’ I of course include you and I, for we must also be guilty, you know, being human an’ all…). Well at the risk of sounding know-it-all – the reason why is obvious: they don’t want to get left behind.

Within this insecurity of not wanting to be left behind is that green eyed monster of jealousy. This is especially true if you have just come out of a period of deep transformation – your friends (or some of them) will be very disturbed by the change in you and want the old you back thank you very much.

My advice?

Fuck them

I am saying this because it’s the truth. I am also saying this to deliberately bring that aspect of yourself out that does indeed think ‘Fuck Them’.

Feel it?

Felt it?


Now let that go (you couldn’t have let it go until you felt it) and do this practice.

Your friends can still be your friends. Your friendship may not be the same as it once was, but shit happens.

Now go and enjoy the new you – you look FANTASTIC 🙂

Matt xx

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